Over the years, I’ve struggled with the ideas of destiny and fate and their relationship to will. If you have free will, and the moral obligation to follow on your free will as I believe, then how could your fate be predetermined? How could you have a destiny set out for you? The two seemed very much at odds with each other.
I’ve been rather quiet on my blog lately, as I was going through an initiation that taught me about destiny. I spoke with Demeter at one point, and she gave a key that I can share with you
Basically, destiny is a thread of one’s existence. It is a primary theme that keeps appearing across your lifetimes, through multiple reincarnations. It is normally tightly related to your Great Work, unless you go through the process of changing your Great Work. Changing your destiny is much more difficult than changing your Great Work, and it is best if the two are aligned and you are aware of both.
I’ll use myself and my wife, Solongo, as examples. My destiny is that of the Father. Her destiny is that of the Mother. As a result, we are blessed with five children, and the Gods say that we will be blessed with more. They did not say we would be blessed with more if we choose to create them biologically. If we didn’t give birth to more children, they would come under our roof in other ways. Maybe they would come through the foster care system or adoption. Or they could come by being friends with our biological children, and simply stay for extended times. They might come as neighborhood children who visit often. We naturally attract children wherever we go, to the point that occasionally, when we leave an area, there are more children coming with us than we brought. Parenting is our destiny, and when we look back to past lifetimes, we see lots of children of many forms in them.
If we resisted this destiny and worked to avoid children in our home, it would cause a lot of discord in our lives. They would still be drawn to us, and we would be generating a lot of negative energy in pushing them away. Since both my wife and I are destined to be the Mother and Father, we would definitely experience birth control failure if we used it too much, for example.
I didn’t need to know that raising children was my destiny to start living in accordance with it. It was something that always attracted me. Since I was young, I felt and dreamed about having many children. When I met my wife we talked about wanting to have children, even before we knew it would be with each other. When we got married, we knew we wanted five children, to the point of taking an oath with the Gods to have five children for Them.
When our fifth child was born, we thought we needed to stop having them. We fulfilled our promise to the Gods, and our Humanist society puts incredible pressure to not have more children. We were told by people all around us what a burden it would be if we weren’t “responsible” and stopped having them. They cost so much money, we were told, and they wouldn’t get enough individual attention.
We struggled with deciding on the type of birth control to use after our fifth. We felt that it should be a long-term form since we weren’t planning to have any more kids. But we had negative feelings about surgical birth control. My wife was adamant about not getting a tubal ligation. I was uncomfortable with getting a vasectomy, and she was against it as well. We ended up deciding on the Mirena IUD. Long-term, few minor side effects, and reversible if we changed our minds (which we were sure we would not do).
The problem is that after about a year and a half of having the IUD, Solongo had problems with chronic low energy, back pain, irregular periods, bladder sensitivity issues, heart palpitations, and other ailments. After doing some research and reading about other women’s experiences, she found this was not uncommon with IUDs, though it is not talked about in the medical literature. The more we read, the more we found women whose experience with their IUD was more problematic than what the available official literature implied. I didn’t care for it either, since I didn’t think it felt good to get poked by the plastic strings when we had sex. We decided it needed to be removed so she wouldn’t continue to suffer. Her body’s rejection of the IUD, along with the opening of our hearts and listening to our intuition, led us to learning our destiny.
We talked about what type of birth control to use instead of an IUD and spent a lot of time and energy worrying about it. One night, Demeter came to me and showed me a home full of children. I learned that no matter what we do, we will have more children in our home, possibly until we are very old. They included our children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, and even some foster children. We decided to open our hearts to our destiny, more than we previously did, now that we knew what it was. As a result, we decided to not use any birth control anymore and simply let the Gods decide how many children we would be blessed with.
It was very liberating and joyful, as it lifted a big weight from our shoulders. Raising children is not easy or always fun, but we’ve learned how it is more important to follow one’s destiny than it is to have fun. Life is more meaningful that way, and we both agree that meaning in life is much more important than amusement and ease.
I find it strange, and somewhat sad in a way, that because of our brood and our belief that children are blessings from the Gods to be welcomed with open arms and hearts, we are in many ways closer in line with fundamentalist Christians than we would like to think. We find that we relate more to “quiverful” and Mormon families than most Pagans, except for the fact that our theological beliefs are extremely Pagan, and quite incompatible with fundamentalist Christianity.
Demeter said that our destiny is to have and raise children. When She said this, it shed a great light on our Great Works and gave them depth and dimension that was not previously apparent. Solongo and I gave Her our word that we would welcome all of Her blessings into our home, and raise them to know the Gods. Because we believe in everyone having their own will, we could not promise that our children would worship our Gods on their own or follow Them, because that is not something we can (or should) control. But we can promise that they would know the Gods.
As our family has grown and developed, I’ve seen the beauty and camaraderie between large Pagan families that we’ve met. Now that we’ve learned to embrace our destiny of being a Pagan portal for children, a new dimension is added. My belief is that the Pagan community will grow and strengthen significantly through other families with similar beliefs, who openly welcome and embrace all children the Gods bless them with, regardless of whether the blessings arrive through giving birth, adopting, fostering, or any other means. Children are the future of any religion or movement, and if it does not have children and raise them to know its Gods and beliefs, then it will die as the believers move on to the Underworld.
I understand that different people have different destinies, which are revealed to them in different ways. I pray that you learn about yours, if you haven’t already. If you do know your destiny, I pray the Gods give you the strength to keep your heart and your mind open to allow it to flow through you, as you act in accordance with your True Will, toward the completion of your Great Work.
So mote it be.
As many of you know, my wife and I serve our Gods through prison chaplaincy. Together, we carry Light and Joy into the dark and barren places to lift the hearts and spirits of those who are lowest. It is a mission that normally is never thought about in the larger Pagan community, but one that is slowly rising in the community conscience. Recently, Nels Linde of the Pagan Newswire Collective was kind enough to interview me about this topic. I’ll be leading a discussion at Paganicon on Saturday, March 16, 2013 about the role of ex-felons in the Pagan community, as they are released from the prison system. If you’re able to attend, I highly recommend it, as there are thousands of Pagan prisoners who will be released within the coming years into our community.
I also invite you to comment on this topic below. How do you feel about the role of ex-cons in Paganism in general? Is your group open to those who were formerly incarcerated? How do you screen visitors and those who request to become a candidate for membership in your group?
I’d like to use your comments in my discussion, so please indicate if you do not want them used.
There is a war being waged against Pagans. But it’s not waged by Christians, as many believe. It is a war against Humanism, an enemy we actually have in common with Christians. It is a religion that is officially promoted by every western government, including the United States. Its churches are government-funded schools and universities designed to teach children to think as a Secular Humanist, all the way down to the subconscious level. Though it has only existed since the early 1930s, it has rapidly grown to be the dominant religion in all of western society.
Humanism denies being a religion at all, declaring itself instead as the scientific truth of the universe. However, I argue that it indeed is very much a religion, regardless of what it calls itself.
Religions provide a few core benefits to their followers, including:
- A mythos, or overall story followers fit into, giving their lives meaning, including a cosmology of the universe and their place in it, and a cast of divine characters.
- Divine protection from harm
- The providing of people’s needs from the ultimate provider(s)
- A moral compass for followers with which to guide their actions and choices
Let’s see how Humanism offers these benefits to its believers. Humanism has a few primary tenets that frame everything within it. These include the following:
- Humanism cosmology says the universe is essentially random, governed by physical laws that were designed by random chance. It was self-existing and not created. Humans themselves are divine and there is no higher being. Therefore, the only mythos is the story of humans achieving human goals. Since there is no universality of human goals (as humans only exist on Earth), the Humanist mythos is shallow and focused on the short-term.
- The physical world is all that exists. There are no non-material, subjective, or spiritual planes of existence.
- Since humans are divine, and there are no higher entities, protection must be provided by human-organized collections of humans, also called government. Social safety agencies, physical, financial, mental, medical, etc. are how the divine human collective provide for divine protection. This leads to thousands and thousands of rules and restrictions, all in the name of “safety.” There is no higher power to protect us, so we are told that it’s critical that we follow every human-decreed safety restriction or Very Bad Things are sure to happen.
- The divine providing for our needs is done through other government programs, such as employment programs, government subsidy of specific businesses and industries, welfare, food stamps, and other similar human-engineered and implemented means. There is no higher power to provide our basic needs, so we are told that if these programs weren’t there, Very Bad Things like starvation and mass death, are bound to happen.
- Our moral compass in Humanism is not the will of a god, like in Abrahamic religions, or our own True Will, as Pagans use, but instead it’s the will of other humans. Laws, regulations, and rules are written and decreed by politicians, political advisors, lawyers, judges, and other Humanistic “higher beings.” Though these rules change, sometimes in opposite directions, they are the rules used to determine morality and ethics used for the daily life of Humanists. As a result, ethics and morality is situational and autonomous. This leads to an “anything goes” attitude that leaves people living in the moral and ethical worlds of their own creation.
Let’s look closer at the Purpose of Life. In Christianity, the overall purpose of life is to unite with their god in heaven. This is achieved by living according to their god’s will. In Paganism, the overall purpose of life is to grow and evolve oneself into a higher being. This is done through study, magical practice, and devotional acts done in service to one’s gods over the course of many lifetimes.
In Humanism, however, the purpose of life is simply to work toward the “fulfillment of human life.” Everything a person does is to enhance one’s personal life and promote cooperative effort to social well-being. Because of this, the entertainment industry is among the largest in the developed countries, and in the developing world, they aspire to be able to focus on entertainment. Humanists worship the gods shown on the oracular television.
The physical world is a finite world of limited resources. As a result, efficiency is a very important part of Humanism. Our food is efficiently made in the Humanist fashion, with industrial agricultural practices controlled by machines and covered in chemicals. To ensure safety, everything is killed in our food through pasteurization, radiation, and other sanitization practices. This results in tons of food that have virtually no useable nutrients or energy (Qi). Instead of nourishing our bodies, this efficient and pleasurable food depletes our bodies.
Humanist cosmology only recognizes the material plane, the “real world.” Anything else that is not physically manifested does not exist at all and is outright denied at all levels as a childish superstition or worse, a psychological disease that needs to be cured. There is a whole industry called “mental health” that exists to force people to be devoted followers of Humanism, through manipulation, coercion, or the force of chemicals.
You can see that Humanism is essentially the antithesis to life. It claims to enhance human life, but without a cosmology that involves the higher beings bigger than ourselves, it is empty. As a result, rates of addiction, depression, psychosis, suicide are all very high in Humanist parts of the world, including all developed countries. Additionally, those who don’t have a clinical problem still suffer from a general malaise of purposelessness.
All this wouldn’t be so bad except Humanism has an explicit mandate to spread and kill all other religions, replacing them with itself. The Humanist Manifesto states that, “Religious humanism maintains that all associations and institutions exist for the fulfillment of human life. The intelligent evaluation, transformation, control, and direction of such associations and institutions with a view to the enhancement of human life is the purpose and program of humanism. Certainly religious institutions, their ritualistic forms, ecclesiastical methods, and communal activities must be reconstituted as rapidly as experience allows, in order to function effectively in the modern world.” (http://www.americanhumanist.org/Humanism/Humanist_Manifesto_I)
So we are at war with Humanism. Humanists desire to replace all types of religion and spirituality with a secular, human-focused religion of its own. A religion that is controlled by humans, such as politicians and other politically powerful people. They wish to remove all true spirituality from our lives and sever the connection to our Gods using the knife of disbelief.
Our job, as people of faith, is to intensify the war against Humanism. We need to raise our children in as Pagan a house as possible, so they understand the role of the Gods, spirits, and other true higher beings in our lives. They need to know in their hearts that there is value to life beyond feeling good and avoiding pain in the moment. There is a larger process at play, a process of growth and evolution involving realms beyond what is seen and felt.
So go forth and devote yourself to your Gods every day, study your path, and take your place in the war against Humanism.
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